Preparing for Eternal Life

“In the face of death, the Church confidently proclaims that God has created each person for eternal life and that Jesus, the Son of God, by his death and resurrection, has broken the chains of sin and death that bound humanity”. – Order of Christian Funerals

    In the event of the death of a loved one,
  • please call the parish office at 952-890-0045. After office hours, dial the emergency number given in the voice mail message.
  • For a downloadable brochure about this ministry, please click here.

Funeral Procedures


  • Step 1: Contact parish office or parish priest by calling 952-890-0045. After hours, call the emergency number given in the voice mail message.
  • Step 2: Arrange date and time for visitation and funeral in coordination with parish and funeral home of your choice.
  • Step 3: Meet with a member of our Pastoral Staff to plan the funeral liturgy.
Frequently Asked Questions about Funerals


What is a Christian Funeral? A funeral encompasses all of the various elements that surround the way in which we mark the death of a loved one. This includes the time surrounding the moment/process of dying, the time of saying good-bye, burial and the grieving process that follows the immediate events.
What is the difference between a Mass of Christian Burial and a Memorial Mass or Service?

  • A Mass of Christian Burial takes place with the remains of the deceased person present.
  • A Memorial Mass/Service is held in memory of the deceased person, but no remains are present.IMG_8162 - Life Candle
What does the Catholic Church say about cremation?
  • Cremation is accepted by the Roman Catholic Church.
  • It is preferred that the body of the deceased be present at the funeral liturgy and cremation take place afterward, but it is also acceptable for the cremation to take place first and the cremains to be present at the funeral liturgy.
  • The Catholic Church requires that the cremains be buried, or interred, as a whole following the funeral, just as a body would be interred.
How is the Mass of Christian Burial or Memorial Mass/Service scheduled?
  • The time of the liturgy is arranged by the family in contact with the parish and the funeral director. Times ought not to be published or announced until all three groups have reached consensus.
  • A Mass of Christian Burial or Memorial Mass/Service may be scheduled at almost any time of the day, in coordination with other liturgies. The most frequently chosen time is 11:00 am.
  • No Mass of Christian Burial or Memorial Mass may be scheduled on Sundays, Feast Days, or during the Paschal Triduum (Holy Thursday evening through Easter Sunday).
What about visitation?
  • Times for visitation are chosen by the family, but may depend upon previously scheduled parish events.
  • The most commonly chosen schedule for visitation includes two-three hours at the funeral home on the evening before the funeral liturgy and one hour at Mary Mother just prior to the funeral.
  • If the funeral takes place in the evening, it is common to have visitation at the church only, for two-three hours just prior to the funeral.
What about burial or entombment?
  • Burial is scheduled according to the requirements of the cemetery chosen by the family.
  • The preferred time for a burial is immediately following the funeral liturgy, in which case a priest will accompany the family to the cemetery for the Rite of Committal.
  • If the family chooses to have a meal or refreshments served immediately following the funeral liturgy and then proceed to the burial, arrangements will be made for a deacon or lay person to perform the Rite of Committal.
What about a meal or refreshments?
  • Mary, Mother of the Church has a funeral meal ministry that provides a lunch or evening refreshments for the family and loved ones of deceased parish members.
  • Arrangements for this are made at the same time the funeral liturgy is planned.
What fees are associated with funerals at Mary Mother?
  • The only set fees for funerals at Mary Mother are for a cantor and an accompanist for the funeral liturgy. This fee is currently $125 each.
  • Free will donations are accepted for meal or refreshments.
  • Families often choose to give a donation to the presiding clergy as well.
  • Donations to the Parish are also encouraged.
What resources are available for advance funeral planning?
  • Materials for advance planning can be downloaded from this website.
  • A funeral planning workshop is offered by the parish on an occasional basis.
Resources for Families


Choices to be made by the Family: Readings: Suggested Readings

  • One Old Testament Reading
  • One New Testament Reading
  • One Gospel Reading
Prayers of the Faithful (Intentions) Suggested Prayers
  • 5-6 Intentions that include prayers for the deceased, family and friends, and all who have died
  • Music: Suggested Music
  • Processional Song
  • Responsorial Psalm
  • Song for Preparation of the Gifts
  • Song for Communion
  • Recessional Song
Liturgical Roles May be filled by family members or friends
  • Cross Bearer
  • Readers (1-3)
  • Gift Bearers (2-4)
  • Communion Cup Holders (2)
  • Special Speaker(s)